Prince Harry’s life has had its fair share of ups and downs, not least because he had to go through the unimaginable tragedy of losing his mother, Princess Diana, when he was still a child. But when he released his book, Spare, some years ago, it turned out that several other incidents had affected him, and one even happened the same day he was born.

King Charles is said to be heartbroken over the non-existent relationship with his son and mostly his grandchildren, Prince Archie and Princess Lilibet. Meanwhile, recent claims suggest he isn’t taking his son’s calls, and Harry has even been accused of not wanting to make amends.

While the rift between Harry and the royal family has been ongoing since he and his wife, Meghan Markle, left the Firm, the scars appear to have been inflicted long before that. One royal expert claims that Charles was “terrified” of Harry for one pretty sad reason.

Prince Harry didn’t have much interest in royal life after he and Meghan Markle got married. The Duke felt he was treated like a “spare” and wasn’t as important as his older brother, Prince William. In the end, after what Harry and Meghan felt was the horrific treatment of the two, they decided to leave for good.

King Charles ‘wasn’t happy’ when Prince Harry was born

It didn’t take long before they began accusing the royal family of many things, some more serious than others. Meanwhile, it also appeared that Harry had been carrying around a lot of anger toward his family members, and some things suggest it began on the day he was born.

Prince William was born only two years before Prince Harry, but since the firstborn was to become the future king, the fuss was, of course, bigger around William’s birth.

According to author Andrew Morton, Princess Diana felt enormous pressure when the time came to give birth to her first son, Prince William. In Diana: Her True Story, he wrote that Diana felt the pressure was “unbearable” and even tried to pick a day when Charles wasn’t playing polo.

There was great excitement when William was welcomed into the world. Yet when Harry arrived a few years later, Charles appeared less thrilled.

In Diana: Her True Story, Diana claimed that Charles always wanted a daughter – and barely hid his disappointment when he saw Harry for the first time.

“I knew Harry was going to be a boy because I saw on the scan,” she explained. “Charles always wanted a girl. He wanted two children, and he wanted a girl. I knew Harry was a boy, and I didn’t tell him.”

Harry felt he was the “plan B”

“First comment was: ‘Oh God, it’s a boy,’ second comment: ‘And he’s even got red hair,’” Diana added.

Moreover, Charles allegedly expressed his disappointment when Harry was christened. According to the late princess, Charles told her mother: “We were so disappointed – we thought it would be a girl.”

“Mummy snapped his head off, saying: ‘You should realized how lucky you are to have a child that’s normal.’ Every since that day, the shutters have come down, and that’s what he does when he gets somebody answering back at him,” Diana said, adding that as Harry was born, their marriage “went down the drain.”

It is no secret that Harry was unhappy with Charles’s actions after his mother’s death. He mentioned that he believed that, as Spare’s title confers, he was his family’s “spare” member. He even claimed he knew he was born in case his big brother William needed blood or an organ donation.

“I was the shadow, the support, the plan B,” Harry wrote. “I was brought into the world in case something happened to Willy, I was summoned to provide backup, distraction, diversion … This was all made explicitly clear to me from the start of life’s journey.”

The word “spare” has become synonymous with Harry and his feelings about his role in the Royal Family. He even claimed that Charles was the first to use it.

Prince Harry said King Charles “stopped engaging” in play time when he got older

Sadly, as Harry and William grew up, the Duke already felt that there were “barriers” between him and his father because of Charles’ age.

“He’d been an older dad, and I’d always felt that this created problems, placed barriers between us,” Harry wrote in Spare. “In his middle years he’d become more sedentary, more habitual. He liked his routines. He wasn’t the kind of father who played endless rounds of tag, or tossed a ball until long after dark.”

However, Harry recalled that Charles had the energy to play with him and his brother when he was younger.

“But, long before we were ready, he stopped engaging in that kind of physical fun. He just didn’t have the enthusiasm,” Harry continued.

In his book, Harry further recalled the horrific moment he got the word on his mother, Princess Diana’s, death. He claimed his father didn’t even hug him after the tragic news had been delivered to him.

Many years later, he and his brother got into a physical altercation.

“He set down the water, called me another name, then came at me. It all happened so fast. So very fast,” Harry wrote.